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Midlife can and should be a powerful, transformational time of your life but you’re going to have to look at what some call a crisis in a much different way. Here’s how to turn crisis to creativity and transform everything to aim you toward the life you’ve always craved.
First of all, amen to those finally willing to do what they need to do to feel good about their lives, no matter when that is. Midlife, later life, whenever; there’s no bad time to redirect things toward more joy and fulfillment. But midlife can be a scary time to make big changes. So how can we create a transformation without feeling like everything’s going to fall apart?
When I decided, at midlife, that a divorce was what it was going to take to experience the freedom and joy I craved, everything inside of me went haywire. The inner critic voice was louder than it had ever been and I was feeling the pain of what I thought might be the consequences of making that decision. Turns out what I thought about what would happen and what I made that mean, was far worse than actually doing it and getting to the other side.
When you’re spending much of your time in feelings of resentment, regret, sadness, doubt and fear, it’s time to do something about it, not sit around wondering, wishing and hoping for it to change. You have to be the one who creates the change. The way to a powerful, transformational midlife is to connect with your desires, and go for more joy, in every way possible.
Problem is we’re taught to settle. We’re taught not to want more than we need and that wanting more is greedy. And even when it comes to our own happiness, were taught to put that aside in order to make others happy, or like us.
If you’ve arrived at midlife sick and tired of people pleasing, living life on everyone else’s terms or settling for a less that fiercely alive life, and are burned out from it, I’m here to tell you that with awareness, and courage, you can have a completely different life. But only if you’re willing to make the necessary changes.
When you’re at the midlife point you have a lot going for you. You have wisdom and experience. You have perspective. And you may have a yearning for making the most out of what you have left. Midlife has this way of creating a crisis in people because when you get to a certain age that means you’ve probably lived more than half your life, and you start wondering about big things. Like the meaning of your existence. Like purpose. Like experiencing bigger love.
This is a good thing. But it can feel really painful if when you get to that point you’re also realizing how far you are from experiencing some of those important things.
But here’s where everything can change. Instead of resigning yourself to the life you have, the one that feels less than good or that’s started to feel a bit constrained and less purposeful, you can reboot, realign and turn what most people call a crisis into one big, badass transformation. You’re going to need to be brave though. I know you’re ready.
If you’re interested in a guide to get you from 1 to 5, I’ve written a brand new book called Brave Healing, a Guide for Your Journey. I’ll explain how each of these steps is explored in a way that helps you gain awareness and courage and finally go for the life you crave. It’s not to late to take this journey to your soul and create an amazing transformation. It’s never too late to move toward more love, gratitude and joy.
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Laura Di Franco, MPT is the owner of Brave Healer Productions. She’s a published poet and author, inspirational speaker, holistic physical therapist and third degree black belt in Tae Kwon Do with over two decades of experience in healing. Praised as “our favorite class” by The Writer’s Center, her brave, intuitive writing and healing workshops are the reason she was born. She helps healers get their badass, authentic voice published in order to heal the world with their words. Her new book is called Brave Healing; a Guide for Your Journey.